I would like to hear your appreciation of the idea of friction and go into it more deeply. I think I was brought up thinking that friction wasn't supposed to exist which was awfully difficult with a mother that shot herself when I was eight, that in the emotional sphere and also because in Colombia we still have a very strong influence from the Spanish nobility that thought that physical labor was for the lower classes so it is common for middle and upper middle classes and above to never have to deal with difficulties because somebody in a lower class should have to deal with them which is a great disadvantage when compared for example with American upbringing. So in the physical instinctive sphere there is also a "not get involved" attitude and leave it for the workers. On the other hand "the american way of life" also seemed to paint a world without problems and in the cult the attitude is that there are no problems unless you speak about them so SHUT UP! It's amazing that so many of us actually bought it for so long.
Anyway in the System the idea of friction followed by the transformation of friction and regeneration is very clear but what I wanted to emphasize is that, don't you find that in upper classes people pretend to avoid friction and that is a great disadvantage? One because just the attitude of not dealing with problems disables people, two, because when we don't want to deal with a problem we end up buffering it, three because while we buffer the problem at the same time we make a huge drama of it instead of finding solutions and four because we end up living in an imaginary world. I think one could go on but let’s look at least at those.
Living with people in lower working classes I've noticed that they hardly make a fuss about almost anything and that's wonderful! They do deal with it and most of the time don't even consider things a problem, just a way of life that needs to be dealt with while at the same time, enjoying themselves. At least this is the case in Colombia where the families remain somewhat together. It also seems connected with being more or less in essence, doesn’t it?
In my biography my mother's suicide seems to have had another opposite effect which was that I seem to have acquired an extreme behavior to friction as if I were trying to avoid things from getting so bad that they'd prompt anyone to such extreme "solution" but in fact reacting so extremely myself that I was the only one in danger of the problem!!! Which also took place in its own time, over twenty years ago, exactly today!!!
Deciphering one’s biography is such an adventure! Until I “survived” things just happened! Suicide just happened (of course, after twenty years of building up to it) and then I’ve spent the next thirty years trying to decipher what happened!! It’s quite funny isn’t it? And rather tragic too from another perspective for I imagine I’m no exception to the rule.
I’m not the subject here, I’m just using my biography to convey the point which is that our attitudes to friction do determine a great many things including the negativity of our reactions. For example, I didn’t even realize how negative I actually was until after I survived! In fact what prompted me to try to commit suicide was that negativity itself. That energy simply turned against me at some point and….
All this when looked from the cold analytical position. On the other side of it is of course the tragedy of an individual who suffers situations that don’t find resolution before they themselves become tragic. In other words, I’m saying that it was the negativity that led me to suicide and that we live in a world in which we are not dealing with the problems before they themselves become tragic. We are not being able to help each other soon enough because if we also understand that negativity is just the shield people put up before the world to try to cope with it not knowing any other way to do so, where we need to help people is in finding solutions that are less tragic. My biography has led me to become interested in the cases of suicide in Japan and Russia where there is an estimate of a hundred suicides daily and the recent suicides in the telecom company of Paris also begin to reveal a pattern of where people are today.
The point of all this writing is trying to help each other understand the problems and find solutions, is it not? Or where is your interest?
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