So what was your aim Ton?

After reviewing our conversations pretty deeply, it is fairly obvious that you are verbally abusive, abuse your position of power, use mechanisms like Robert to justify your actions, in short, you're extremely manipulative.

So what was and is really your aim Ton?

Do you presently have problems with your family and are trying to justify your self behaving like this to another woman that has nothing to do with you?

Do you need to justify the mistreatments you habitually perform in your life and thought that with the support of the fofblog they would look any prettier on someone who was already pretty vulnerable in that context?

There is a substantial difference between you and I and and a nazi and jew, the kind of abuse you exercise is public and verbal but if you take a good look at it and the way you went on and on does it not remind you of those men that have to get it out on someone and can't rest until they've "done them in"? Which you finally managed?

The point here is not only that I am a victim for I am but proportionate to the attacks, I’m not nearly as hurt as you were aiming to get me. One does get used to it after it happens many times. I’m protesting for the abuse but my protest is not one that comes from self-pity but from the clarity of a deep examination. One that you’ll surely avoid because there is nothing abusers hate more than looking at themselves.

What was it that you were really trying to tell me? That overall our ideas on life are pretty similar but what you can’t stand about me is the fact that I stand up like a human being and speak about what I believe as if the ideas belonged to me? I mean, there is still not one argument that you have seriously contested limiting yourself to attacking me personally in every post so what is it really that you are after? Cutting off my sense of my self? Would that make you feel better? Is it my presence what offends you?

Reviewing this conversation has been a sobering experience. I hope you take a look at it so that you understand the deep drama within it. Since you’ve been so courageous in taking up the word for the fofblog against me, you might be as courageous to take up the exploration into what you actually did and look at yourself without buffering it before hand with “you’re just sick Elena and playing the victim”.

It might help you with your life. What is so fascinating about “public life” or the third sphere of our selves, is that it is a faithful, extroverted picture of who we are inside and in private. When people learn to understand that, Doctors will only need to watch children playing or adults talking to each other, to know where they need help.